The Myth of the "Lucky" Clinician (Episode 60)
Have you ever looked at another therapist’s thriving practice and thought, they’re just lucky?
It’s an easy story to tell ourselves when someone else seems to be attracting the kinds of clients we’d love to work with. But the truth is, what looks like “luck” on the outside is almost always the result of clarity, connection, and consistency in how someone shows up through their marketing.
In this episode, I’m guiding you through a short visualization to help you reconnect with the real person behind your marketing. Not the vague idea of an “ideal client.” Not a demographic profile. A real human being—the kind of client who reminds you why you do this work in the first place.
When you write your website, your Psychology Today profile, or your next post with that person in mind, everything changes. Your words become clearer, your message becomes stronger, and marketing stops feeling like a performance. It simply becomes an extension of the work you already care so deeply about.
Here’s what you’ll learn in this episode:
1️⃣ How to ground your marketing in a real client relationship instead of generic advice or templates.
2️⃣ A simple visualization exercise you can return to anytime your marketing feels forced or unclear.
3️⃣ Why the clinicians who seem “lucky” are usually just the ones who communicate the most genuine connection.
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Hey y'all, welcome back to Marketing Therapy episode 60 and happy St. Patrick's Day. Hopefully you remember to wear green today.
Maybe you're doing something big. Maybe you just like this. As an excuse to eat a Ruben sandwich like me.
The Lucky Clinician Myth
But I thought it would be appropriate to talk today about this idea of the lucky clinician. And I see people use this language or similar things out there in the world as they talk about other clinicians.
You know, we all know the therapist that is fully private pay and they're raising their fees regularly. You see these stories in Facebook groups of people making. 200 k, whatever in their practice. They've got this flexible schedule and you just can't help but maybe envy them. If we wanna talk about green, maybe a little bit green with envy sometimes.
And from the outside it looks effortless. These clinicians look like they have it made. Like they got lucky. Maybe because they have been in the game for longer, maybe because they picked the quote unquote right niche, you know, like they cracked some secret code that you didn't know about.
And I think if we're honest with ourselves, sometimes we use the idea of luck to explain. What we don't fully understand. It feels easier to slap that on than to really look at the whole picture, especially when often we don't have access to that full picture. So I wanna look underneath the surface a little bit today of the Lucky clinician.
And as I prepared for this episode, it really held in mind a handful of clinicians I know who you would probably look at and think. Have got it made. What are they doing? What are they not doing? What can you see? What can't you see? And what can we learn here? Mm-hmm. I really wanna unpack in this episode where luck is real because I think you know what sometimes it is but where it's also often overstated or misunderstood and what might actually be happening for those clinicians who appear to have it made, but in fact are working really, really hard to stay there. So let's be real.
When Luck Is Real
First and foremost, there are absolutely examples of real timing advantages when you decide to start a private practice, right? March, 2020 hits and you already do online therapy.
You're already ready. I'd say that was lucky timing. Maybe you started your practice in the middle of the peak pandemic demand. Now we saw more clinicians than ever begin private practice during the pandemic, and it was a glorious time in a lot of ways.
It was quote unquote, easy to grow a practice in those really urgent pandemic times. We even talked recently about sort of the pandemic mindset. And what was leading folks to decide to seek out therapy. So yeah, if you decided to start a practice in the boom of the pandemic times when demand was so high and people were desperate, understandably for care.
Yeah, I, I, I would call that lucky. Maybe you were trained in EMDR right when it exploded culturally. Right before Miley Cyrus talked about doing it right before it really took off and you were able to take advantage of that. Mm-hmm. Sure. We can call that luck. Maybe you were the first person in your local area or something like that to be trained into specific modality or specific niche.
Now we could go on and on. There are absolutely examples of getting lucky, being in the right place at the right time with your business to take advantage of what's available to you. What's true of these lucky timings is that they explain quick acceleration. But they don't necessarily explain longevity. So you can capitalize on the moment in time, but it's if you stay there that we know that this went beyond luck. Does that make sense? So for the folks that started their practice in the early pandemic years, for instance, yeah.
Marketing was objectively easier. Demand was high. It was really common to have a wait list. And it created like it or not, an expectation that, oh, marketing is kind of easy. Once I'm full, I'll stay full. If I build it, they just keep coming. I used to use the language autopilot in my own marketing to talk about getting clients on autopilot.
I have since stripped that from our marketing because it's not as factual anymore. But in those early days, it sort of created that feeling. It was an unusual season. Mm-hmm. And lots of folks were able to take advantage of it. But like I said, luck, good timing. That's a moment in time. That's a blip on the radar.
Mm-hmm. It's if you keep it there, that something else is at play.
Why Luck Keeps You Stuck
Now when we say someone is lucky or got lucky, what are we really doing there? I think sometimes it protects us from comparing ourselves from looking at what maybe they're doing that we're not. Examining our own marketing, our own decision making, asking some hard questions about why they've been able to get there, and it's just easier to slap a label on that Facebook post or that Instagram following or whatever and just call it that. But here's what happens there. When we say someone is lucky, then that meant that their success is random. That they benefited from something out there, something abstract that we can't touch.
And if success is random, then it's not replicable. And if it's not replicable, we don't have to change anything. I think that's the danger of misinterpreting other clinicians' success incorrectly. Is that it actually leads you to staying more stuck than becoming inspired and taking more action.
It removes agency from your ability to be a success story because, oh, well, they just had something I don't have. Just benefited from something I didn't have or get. But we know that success leaves clues. I've talked about that before. Success compounds over time.
It's not a blip in the radar. So like I mentioned, as I was preparing for this episode, I was thinking about some of the really successful quote unquote lucky clinicians that I know, and some of them have benefited from good timing here and there, but.
Duck Paddling Reality
As I thought about them at the picture of a duck paddling came to mind, and you've probably heard this metaphor, but ducks appear very calm on top of the water, but if you see their little feet underwater, they are a going and a going, right?
They are paddling and paddling and paddling. And so I have the benefit of having a bit of a different vantage point than most clinicians because I stay in touch with our past clients. Some of them have turned into friends that I get to voice note with you know, on the weekends, I see behind the scenes and confident copy.
I sit down with our done for you clients in one-on-one settings. Like I see what's happening on a bit of a deeper level under the water, under the surface, if you will. And you know what I see? This is not passive success here. Right. And so on the surface, those clinicians you're looking at, they might seem elegant like the swan.
You know, they might seem calm and steady and unflappable, but underneath those people are paddling. And I don't mean paddling in a super frantic way, like it's not like a duck only paddles when they're running from something.
Like these people are not frantic, they're not chaotic, they're not hair on fire, but they sure are consistent. They sure realize they have to go somewhere. That effort is involved. Right. And so that's what I wanna remind you here is that the clinicians that you're seeing out there, the Facebook posts, the whatever.
They're not just experiencing success, they are maintaining it actively. Just like getting there was effort staying there is two.
What Success Requires
You wanna know what kinds of things I'm seeing happening under the surface. They are adjusting how they think about and approach their marketing.
They are improving their directory profiles and tracking their referral sources. They are having follow ups with their networking conversations. They're tweaking their messaging as they learn about who they are as a clinician and who's resonating best with their website or their marketing. They're adding new modalities.
They're updating specialty pages. They're being thoughtful about the actions they take next in response to the market and the culture that we're in. I mean, I'm thinking of just one clinician in particular. If I asked her what she was doing six years ago to market her practice, it would look vastly different than what she's doing today.
There has been a sense of responsiveness and forward movement action being taken for these therapists that again, appear a very certain way above the water and a very different way beneath it.
You could also think about it like an iceberg, right? You see their premium fees, you see them talk about being fully booked. You see their revenue. You see the amount of money that they're making or that they want to make. You see all these success stories, but what you don't see underneath is the consults that didn't convert the fee, increased anxiety that they also had the website rewrite or redesign that took months of work.
The experimentation with SEO and AI and social media. The investment that they made, time, money, energy, whatever, into their marketing, the awkward networking conversations they had, the pivots they made in their niche.
Success is usually the visible tip of the invisible consistency and willingness to keep going wing, and it's way too easy to assume that only what you see above the surface is what's happening. We mistake the visible things for the whole entire story.
Evolve Or Fall Behind
Now there's long been an idea that once you are full, you're done.
You've arrived, right? You can freeze your marketing in time. If only. That clinician I was mentioning that I'm thinking about like between 2020 and 2026. She has adapted so many times. She has refined her point of view. She's gotten clearer on what she brings to the room. She's updated her language and her approach.
She's changed her strategies as AI has come onto the scene and SEO has changed. She's adjusted who she talks to and how she talks to them. She's the same therapist. And she's doing very similar work, but it's been this constant state of refinement both in who she is and how she's putting herself out there and what she's doing to market it.
The therapists who are sustaining premium fees right now are responsive. They are paying attention to the industry shifts to the client behavior shifts. We've been talking a lot lately about how client behavior is different. They're more discerning, more skeptical. They're paying attention to those things.
Cultural changes, search behavior, and this might feel a little bit overwhelming, like you have to stay on top of so many things at once.
You might imagine yourself as the duck with the frantic paddling under the surface, but there's actually a way to do this really thoughtfully, and it only happens when it's consistently invested in overtime. So rather than clinging to what used to work, that strong desire to just pause your marketing where it is and for it to work the same way it always has been.
These clinicians are a picture and an example of what it means to evolve and what's required to be successful. I've shared before 2025 was a really interesting learning year for me because I was confronted for one of the first times in my time in business with the fact that the marketing that I was doing wasn't working the way that it used to.
And as someone who does very much clinging to what has always worked should continue to work, man, I had to grapple with that. I had a bit of a reckoning in early 2025 where I had to get really honest. With myself and look in the mirror and say, if you're gonna be a business owner, you gotta put on your big girl panties and you gotta be willing to change.
You have to be willing to look at the data to respond to it and to make decisions, and that is what I see today's most successful, lucky clinicians doing.
Mindset Of Winners
Now, of course there's mindset happening here, right? We've talked a lot about strategy like this, willingness to evolve and try new things and experiment and tweak and whatever. But there's also just an underlying mindset here that I see in clinicians who are super, super successful right now. And here are a couple of those themes.
One, they assume growth is still possible. They assume success is still out there. Deciding ahead of time that you can be successful is absolutely fundamental because then you are not at the mercy of the economy, at the mercy of your client's behavior, at the mercy of whether or not someone decides to book with you or not after a consult, because you've already decided ahead of time that this is possible.
There are also very okay with taking imperfect action. They recognize that not every single investment of their time, energy, or even money is necessarily going to. Give them exactly what they were hoping, but they trust that they're gonna learn something from it anyway. These clinicians are raising their fees before it feels 100% right.
I don't know that it ever does. I've heard from clinicians who are prepared to step into the 300 400 plus session fee range and the anxiety that comes with it, but they're doing it anyway. They're doing things scared. These clinicians are also investing in learning. They're deciding where their expertise stops and where another's begins, and they're willing to either learn something to fill that gap or bring someone on to do that for them.
They are not afraid of investing in their business because again, they know that success is possible and they recognize that investments are required to get there. These clinicians are also tracking their data. We've talked before about data. I will link our past episode in the show notes about this, but data, data, data tells us something, and that's where I had to have that reckoning back in 2025 because the data was saying, Hey Anna, Hey Anna.
Hey Anna. We need to look at this. These clinicians are tracking their data. They're paying attention to how consults are converting or not converting. They're paying attention to their website analytics and their. You know, SEO performance, they're looking at numbers so that they're not just operating off of vibes because how easy would it be to make long lasting decisions based on how you feel?
Sometimes you feel like things are slow, when in fact everything's okay. Sometimes you feel like things are okay, when in fact the numbers would show you that you need to be making some changes. These clinicians are open to looking at data. These clinicians are also staying very, very consistent. Even when inquiries dip, not if they dip, but when. No therapist, no practice, no business is immune from the ups and downs and ebbs and flows of inquiries and referrals and bookings.
These clinicians are still showing up. They're not losing their mind. They're not panic hair on fire, burning everything down and working at Costco. Been there, but they're staying consistent. They're up for the uncertainty. They recognize that that's what they signed up for, and because of that, marketing is part of their job.
They recognize that they are more than a therapist, they are a business owner, and that they've signed up as a business owner to market themselves. This isn't a side chore or something that they do when they have time, but it's part of the rhythm of running this practice and it's what's gonna get them to the success that they know is possible.
These are some of the things that I see, some of the trends that I see in the clinicians who have. Absolutely weathered some serious ups and downs in the last two years, in the last 2, 4, 6 years. Again, not because they are immune to them, but they're not waiting to feel confident.
They're not waiting for certainty. They're not blaming the market. They are owning their ability to be successful. They are trusting themselves and they're taking action. Accordingly and that mindset that compounds over the years. Mm-hmm. You build a muscle of being able to tolerate the uncertainty.
Right. You can teach your own clients how to tolerate uncertainty, how to expand their capacity for uncomfortable feelings. These clinicians work at that in their business.
Gordon Ramsay Lesson
I shared last week in an email that I watched the recent Gordon Ramsay documentary. It's called Becoming Gordon Ramsay. It's on Netflix. One of my husband is traveling, which he is doing a lot of this month. And leading up to my maternity leave, I always watched the docuseries and things that he might not be so interested in.
So I, I was watching the Becoming Gordon Ramsay documentary and it's, it's a really, really fascinating miniseries if you haven't watched it yet. A camera crew followed him for a year as he opened up. Four restaurants and a culinary school, I believe it is in one of the top buildings in London. So this was understandably one of the largest, if not the largest project of his career, like truly the highest stakes.
He was funding it himself. The stakes were really, really high. And so this camera crew follows him around as he makes decisions and you know, yells at people, but is also a really sweet father and dad. You get some cool glimpses into that. But Gordon said something really interesting in the very first episode that just really stuck with me because it hit home for me and I deeply resonated with it.
He said he's still afraid even today, that all of his success could go away. I mean, we're talking about a dude with multiple Michelin stars, right? A global empire, massively successful, lucky some might say, and he's still afraid that it could all go away. Now, there are two ways that that thought could operate because maybe you two have felt that, and I guarantee that those therapists that you admire have had that thought.
What if it all goes away when you reach a certain level of success? What if it all goes away? And that thought can do two things for you. One, it can be destructive because it leads you to operate out of anxiety and scarcity and fear because it's like failure is always around the corner, and so you're operating out of that place. That's where it can be destructive, but that thought it could all go away. I think it can also be incredibly constructive because I think that comes from a place of stewardship where you are trusting and believing that what you've created is real, and also recognizing that it's not permanent, that it's not passive.
It's about protecting what you've built, and I think those lucky clinicians, those happy ducks that we see, you know, moving along the surface, like they're probably having this thought and they're not letting that thought, keep them stuck, but instead it is leading them to respect their business enough to stay involved.
To not become passive just because things are good
and to protect what they've built to, to recognize and kind of stay humble a little bit. That mindset, I think is incredibly powerful too.
Consistency Beats Luck
So maybe there are therapists who look at, and you think they're, man, they're lucky to be where they are today. Maybe they started earlier. Maybe they stayed engaged, maybe they've adapted, maybe they've compounded, maybe they just didn't give up.
Remember that luck is that blip on the radar, like it can open a door, absolutely, but consistency is what keeps that door open. It's what makes continued success possible.
If you're looking at someone else's success and calling it luck or just admiring the heck out of it. Ask yourself, what might you not be seeing here? Where could you potentially be evolving? What steps could you be taking and is there anywhere that you perhaps have gone passive in your marketing?
Again, not from a place of fear, not from a place of hustle culture. But from a place of engagement and willingness and thoughtful action about what it takes to grow a practice in this day and age, keeping your head down, continuing to paddle long enough for these things to compound over time, because that lucky clinician out there, she's not just lucky, she's responsive, she's invested, she's evolving.
And the cool thing is that that exact path is available to you too.
Final Encouragement
Like I said, one of the best parts of my work is this cool vantage point. I have this insight into other clinicians' practices and I hope that. This episode provides you a little bit more of a glimpse into what's going on under the surface for those therapists, and an invitation to get honest about the places where perhaps you have let someone else's success or luck tell you incorrectly. That that same success isn't possible for you because I deeply, deeply believe that it is. Happy St. Patrick's Day. I hope this one got your gears turning in some good directions, and I'll see you next week.
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